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You Can’t Go Back

You can’t go back.  No matter where we are in our life’s journey, the past is merely what was experienced prior to this moment which allowed us to realize even higher potential. Of course we would rather not repeat unpleasant experiences, but even the good ones aren’t meant to be repeated.Creating your path can't go back

Those who’s vocations involve helping others heal are often working with people who want to get back to what they were doing, the way they were doing things, from the same motivation. Or, they sense they are ready to “change”, yet think this means going back to certain activities and motivations that they believe made them feel good in the past. “If I can just “get back” to how I was before this happened”…

Not only are we never meant to go back, it’s technically impossible to do so. Life is tirelessly striving to improve itself. Due to quantum physics, the place you identify as your house is not identical molecularly or energetically moment to moment. You “recreate” the space and how it responds to you from whatever state of being you— and others that interact with the space— are perceiving from at that moment. If we consciously attempt to recreate a process or event to the best of our recollection, our new experience will still be fundamentally different, even if we aren’t conscious of those new details.

When Our Comfort Zone Becomes Uncomfortable

The rub is if we believe things should be the same, we create disharmony between our perception and our higher potential. This is why some of us do something over and over again that initially felt amazing, and since we don’t get the identical rush of reward we remember having, will increase the quantity or intensity of that action until the bodymind begins to break down. We may be repeating actions and thoughts, therefore energetically attracting similar circumstances to create similar outcomes, but it just won’t be the same as an initial experience that was meant to lead you to something else.

I’m not referring to temporarily habituating a skill so we don’t have to consciously think about it anymore to navigate the world, like learning to drive. Nor do I mean we shouldn’t practice a vocational pursuit. Yet we have been taught that success is precisely mimicking and automating techniques recorded by others who had success in the past, then repeating those steps forever, even if they become boring or taxing. We are taught that such suffering is not just normal, it’s necessary. That’s how we think we “earn” our place in the world. And the euphoria of temporary reprieve, such as reaching a goal or going on a vacation, is our reward. Then what?

We see this type of success everywhere, yet are all these skillful people healthy and fulfilled? Consider those televised talent competitions where it is apparent everyone has amazing ability, has been told if they put in the focused work that they can be the best, and have obviously spent such effort… yet only one person can “‘win”. And there’s only a relative handful of paying gigs for certain types of performers, athletes, etc… in relation to how many people are striving to become one of the chosen. Therefore, the others aren’t “good enough”, and if they don’t give up, they work “harder” until they break down. In the meantime, there is usually high dependency upon multiple therapy modalities to survive this process.

People that are highly skilled resulting from enormous, calculated effort at executing activities that society has conditioned itself to believe are important and impressive, are finding themselves unfulfilled. Such discipline stifles authentic creativity, which is necessary for Life to efficiently evolve and thrive. Instead, rigidity and inability to adapt to ever-changing circumstances ensues. Trying to control every detail is exhausting, because we aren’t meant to.

This approach is not limited to vocational pursuit. Since everything we attempt in our lives is executed from a habitual state of being and doing, trying to maintain individual wellbeing is forced from the same calculated effort. Whether physical, emotional or spiritual, we are told by experts and gurus to follow a strict formula that will result in health, happiness or enlightenment.

Using a Method to Initiate Change

I noticed through my client’s and my own journeys that if a method is helpful, those effects are temporarily. Following specific advise does help people open to new ideas, break some old habits, and develop new ones to get a flow of change started. Yet too often, if we experience some relief, we attribute this to something outside our power fixing us and try to return to our familiar lives. Even if we want other things to improve, we continue to allow our environments: friends, family, material things, work issues, the news, etc… to condition our behavior and the parameters of our wellbeing.

Once a method has opened a path, it’s “your move”: meaning you either begin to tap-in to your own higher guidance and focus your attention toward positive potential; or, get distracted with the aftermath of what was set in motion from the old self and others, and need the next method to get reinspired. This loop has become a lifestyle, as overcoming hardship is glorified to the extent of being THE path to worthiness and wisdom. So we perpetually regurgitate other people’s suffering and create more issues to make it harder on ourselves, while ignoring higher potential asking to be expressed through us. Eventually, what “works” to experience one’s fullest potential— whether health, vocation, spiritual connection, or any aspect of life— is diligently cultivating a deep, loving relationship with your unique Self.

The best methods and practitioners are those who offer tools of self-empowerment, and understand they are merely a temporary co-creator of our journey to embodying the True Self.
It’s opening the opportunity to take full responsibility for every aspect of our own life experience. We can learn how to tune-in to our built-in biofeedback system, and discover the next layer of our abilities and genius from a place of self-empowerment instead of survival.

Becoming Empowered with a Quantum Perspective

This means embarking on a new perspective of Life that is an endless journey. There is no definitive goal that must be achieved to earn worthiness, health or happiness. There is no age or experience constraint— if you are breathing now, you can chose to open to something yet to be. There is no requisite suffering or efforting. There is always more love, more clarity, more creativity, more joy, more ability, and more understanding to be realized. The word “more” is not being used as a quantitative factor, accumulating stuff and information that creates density and blockage. Here, more means new, different and fuller than past experience. We release past truths that otherwise become limitations, trusting we have integrated whatever was needed to learn— whether 10 decades, years, days or even seconds. Time, age and meaning as we knew them to be are not factors in quantum reality.

We are blessed to live in an amazing era where we get to pioneer quantum beingness, no longer limited to manipulating things from a matter-effecting-matter, linear reality. We can choose to consciously expand into the larger reality of energy-effecting-matter, and play with the possibilities. When full attention is paid to the creative process from a positive perspective, we powerfully direct the course of the future toward more love, beauty, prosperity and wellbeing… and are free to enjoy experiencing Life as it unfolds in the present moment. With this possibility waiting to be expressed through you, do you want to go back?

Kriste Brushaber is a holistic movement and life guide, and founder of Homeostasis Movement™


Are We Ready for Healing?

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Possibility is everything. As a Self actualization coach, I follow the latest findings in neurology, physiology, and biology about the adaptability of the human bodymind. With each discovery— such as how habits are pruned and wired with measurable neurophysiological changes— naturally there is excitement about learning something new. Yet this can quickly lead to tunnel vision, isolating a subject in a way that dismisses peripheral factors. We forget that each mechanism studied in detail is an interconnected sub-system of a larger holon orchestrating multiple processes.

The human bodymind, like all of life, is constantly evolving. Scientific study of a living organism designed to adapt with every bit of information processed can only review bits of a moment in time that has already past and moved on to the next potential. Then there’s the observer effect that illustrates whatever is being observed (studied, analyzed, etc…) is being influenced by the observer. Science will always be playing catch-up to what is actually true and possible.

For example, earlier pioneers of DNA studies discarded the role of regulatory proteins. It turns out these proteins govern which section of DNA is selected, copied, modified, and expressed. It’s only been recently, and reluctantly, that researchers are embracing epigenetic theory that includes regulatory proteins, and so much more.

When a new piece of the puzzle is observed, we want to exclaim “this is it!”, wishing now that we know this part, we can create a drug or therapy that will fix people by manipulating this piece. And sometimes, in a relative handful of cases, it seems to work. For others, marginal improvement is experienced, increasing some ability and dignity. Then there’s the folks who don’t respond, get worse, or just trade one issue for another due to side effects or discover something else lurking underneath what they thought they were treating.

Scientific study is obviously valuable as one of many mechanisms for understanding life, as long as we remember there will always be infinite possibilities that has yet to be created, discovered, and experienced.

The Potential in Possibility

It’s becoming more apparent that a person’s state of holistic being, especially their attitudes about possibility, tips the scale of health expression. Regardless of the pathology and all the fascinating biological mechanisms involved, or the treatment chosen to address it: if an individual is open to positive possibility more than statistics or pessimistic opinion, they seem to have a greater chance of experiencing improvement. And for some, they make such a powerful decision that they are going to embody a new state of being, that they do, treatment or not. New studies in neuroscience show the real, hardwired changes in the brain when this occurs.

Possibility (artist unknown)As quantum physics is suggesting, moment by moment, the observer collapses possibility into reality. Therefore, it is theorized that the difference between those who seem to suffer from chronic problems or not heal as well as others, and those who seem to maintain wellbeing with little effort or experience spontaneous recoveries, is subconscious beliefs deciding what is possible (or not) within an individual or a group of people. Perceptions and intentions govern how we are recreating ourselves at every moment.

Focusing Our Attention

I prefer to focus upon the mechanisms of thriving and adapting than what makes people sick. This annoys some who want to discuss health and wellbeing with me, as we have been lead to believe that studying what makes people sick is how we learn to stop sickness. In my view, that is just discussing and perpetuating sickness, not wellness. I believe if we spend our energy practicing what inspires our bodymind to express health and joy with the least amount of tinkering, there would be exponentially less disease to heal. Luckily, there’a a wave of renegade scientists and medical professionals who are shifting their attention likewise.

With easy accessibility to infinite information, a healer, guide, or someone desiring to improve can get trapped in the details about the mechanisms of both illness and wellness. We risk the over-intellectualizing that blocks the flow of possibility. A new “box” of thought without embodied experience is created. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the experience of empowered wellbeing no matter how that happened.

If anyone decides to take a look beyond their normal scope of awareness with the intention of seeking exceptions to the rules, they will find them. There’s over 7 billion people after all, and medical studies are taken from a tiny fraction of the population with a predetermined intention. Examples are everywhere of people that seem to operate from another reality since they are not following recommended health practices, yet still thrive. And, many have fully healed from “incurable” diseases. The realization that all these humans are born with the same basic biological hardware as you and me, is proof that nothing is inevitable. Unless, due to the placebo and nocebo effect, we believe something is inevitable. The worst epidemic today is allowing limiting beliefs to run our biology.

Although each human body is equipped with the same systems, the brilliance of this organic machine is that it is designed to be customized with every experience. No two people’s experiences are identical, which means each of us are uniquely wired. Therefore, what equates to ultimate wellbeing for one person will not be exactly the same as the other.

Embracing the Quantum Era

Scientific discoveries can lead to helpful insights and treatments. And, there are also well documented non-medical practices and therapies that millions of people wholeheartedly credit for their healing or wellbeing, scientifically studied or not. I have learned to accept any process employed within someone’s journey which opens a path of empowered living.

This leads to something all of us: practitioners, patients, clients, students… need to embrace: we are creating the possibility of wellness from the unknown, including drawing upon the wisdom distilled from what has already helped others. We tap into this by opening ourselves to new and infinite potential. Our intuition must be employed to guide us through the endless sea of information to hone-in on what is relevant to the unique being standing before us in the moment; whether that being is one’s self, or someone else asking for help.

What ultimately drives my vocational intention: once emerging through the threshold of feeling better or embracing possibility, regardless of how, THEN WHAT? Do we seize the opportunity to discover and express our True Being now that we are healthier? Or do we continue to shrink away from our greatness and avoid engaging a new phase of our lives, since this would require significant change in every aspect of our living reality. If the latter, we cling to the familiar: some staying preoccupied with further manipulating their physical bodies; others chronically seeking more data. Or, we return to old habits until another reason to heal from something emerges.

We experience healing beyond expectation when we fully plunge into next part of our life journey. The fun of welcoming new experiences becomes more compelling than the familiarity of what has transpired. And for more people, realizing the challenge in the form of an issue, big or small; whether physical, social, financial, or any other… was the signal to welcome a new state of being which integrates and amplifies body, mind, heart, and Soul.

Kriste Brushaber is a holistic movement and life guide and founder of Homeostasis Movement™


Because I Can: Choosing a New Perspective

It’s no secret many of us are addicted to bad news under the spell of “staying informed”: a learned cultural duty, and often mistaken for education. Dramatized stories and images of those who are suffering or deemed underprivileged maintain the illusion of separateness and hopelessness. However, when the data is calculated, it is argued that collectively humans are actually subject to less poverty and violence per capita than historically recorded. There are also millions of people doing whatever it takes to move humanity forward and upward for the greater good of the entire planet. But these people and stories are not mainstream newsworthy. We must make a sincere effort to take conscious control of our attention, and search elsewhere for empowering information to create a new perspective.

Regardless, a reason we experience intense urgency, outrage, or despair when exposed to tragedy is that we are growing less tolerant of such suffering— and should be as humanity evolves. Yet in response, if we do not update where we focus our attention, ongoing emotional reactions like these trigger physiological processes in the body that eventually fatigue it. Our cells are bathed in chemical signals that hinder rational and creative thought, heart rhythms, digestion, repair and renewal of tissues. We become increasingly susceptible to illness, and less able to effectively participate in our daily activities— let alone do something to help humanity. Then we feel more hopeless, and the spiral continues. This stress response was originally meant to be triggered on rare occasion to escape mortal threat, then quickly cease. Now, many of us are living from trigger to trigger, barely recovering before the next. This means we are not returning to homeostasis, where our body and attention can fully return to processes of health and opportunity.

Privilege Guilt

A recurring theme in my relationship circles is the holistic paralysis caused by what I will call “privilege guilt”. This can happen if you perceive yourself as privileged, or feel bad when you imagine being healthier, wealthier or successful in the future. Behavioral characteristics can include: turning down wonderful opportunities, a habit of judgement of others and self (kept to oneself or shared), preoccupation with menial or familiar tasks with increased scrutiny, discomfort when others express praise or gratitude (verbal or physical gift), lack of rest and recharging, always prioritizing others’ wellbeing over one’s own, and not asking for help. Some experience bouts of depression or anger.

According to holistically-minded doctors and scientists, physical symptoms can include: digestive, blood pressure and heart issues, chronic pain, tension or fatigue. And almost any medical professional will agree that chronic stress, no matter how it is triggered, is a significant contributor of every disease. Treating these symptoms often become another preoccupation, seeking physical intervention for a physiological process triggered by emotional habit. Just remember there is a difference between symptom and cause, and our culture is experiencing an epidemic of ignoring cause.

Some privilege guilt attitudes:

  • Who am I to have opportunity/prosperity/community when others do not?
  • How can I or anyone enjoy abundance when others are suffering?
  • Until there is “equality” for all, I cannot celebrate or enjoy what I have, have experienced, or can access.
  • I am not “above” doing certain tasks myself. To prove I am not “better” than others, I will do these tasks even if I don’t really enjoy them.
  • I will not take or create a new opportunity to apply and hone my expertise or talent, because that would take away an opportunity for someone else who needs it more than me.

Instead, consider:

  • How does it serve others to limit participation, reject self-nurturing, or suffer guilt after enjoyment: denying humanity or the planet the creative expression of our unique abilities, wisdom and love?
  • How can others learn to shine and participate at their highest potential, if those who can do not? Sometimes it takes just one example to plant an inspirational seed. Can I be the source of inspiration?
  • How can humanity possibly evolve for the better of all, if those who supposedly have a higher consciousness won’t allow themselves to live the life they have now to their fullest potential?
  • If there is any positive potential for the future, including creative solutions to what we perceive as problems, how can this potential manifest if those who have the resources, ability, knowledge and heart do not participate at their full capacity?
  • Life is a co-creative experience. When we insist on doing everything ourselves, we miss creating opportunity for others who would love the chance to contribute and learn. Then we become overwhelmed and bitter that we don’t have the time or energy to fully express our personal greatness. Like the individual cells in our bodies, we are healthy when serving each other and the whole for a greater purpose, while expressing individual potential.

Am I clear about the difference between:

  • Narcissism vs. constructive confidence and gratitude?
  • Consuming vs. receiving, self-care, and creating opportunity for joy and prosperity for others through inspired participation and celebration?
  • Overcare vs. compassion?
  • Controlling vs. participating?
  • Sacrifice vs. inspired service
  • Failure vs. necessary creative process?
  • Taking blame vs. responsibility?

Another contributor to privilege guilt is the kind of environmentalism which advocates playing and existing as small as possible to leave the smallest “footprint”. Yet the natural process of life itself is destruction and creation, and like it or not, we humans are part of that process no matter how much we try to tread lightly. This has created a stigma for those who want to or are participating wholeheartedly in life, which includes experimentation that inherently includes failures.

If a failure is considered a waste— charged with a negative energy, we punish ourselves or others when it happens, and subsequently limit our authentic participation in co-creating the future. Trust as your actions are inspired from a place of Heart and Spirit (hence, in-Spired), you will become more efficient with your energy and resources while attracting more to create more, enabling you to contribute your unique gift to ensure a thriving future. This document used natural resources to be created and for you to read. The finished document is not the first draft, and took a different path and more time than initially intended. And it’s all good.

Kriste Brushaber Because I Can Choosing a New PerspectiveWhere to start: Change Your Information Diet

Learn what good is being done in the world right now, weaning yourself off the stream of media negativity that actually represents only a small fraction of reality. You must change your perspective if you want to change anything you are experiencing.

My personal experience after choosing a new perspective and changing my diet of information: there is so much good manifesting in the world right now, such amazing creativity, and solutions ready to be implemented addressing every problem we can imagine. More people each day are doing good deeds without expectation of reward or recognition, seeing differences as strengths, collaborating instead of competing, and finding likeminded co-creators determined to create a positive future. If you have access to the internet, you have the power to find and learn about these realities. You can also set out in your community with the intention to spot Goodness in Action, from the smallest gesture to big projects. Seek (with an open heart and mind), and you shall find. As far as I am concerned, it’s imperative to not only discover what is already blooming, but also allow this to fill your heart and inspire your personal path.

Your existence is not an accident. The question is, why am I here, right now, at this time in history, in the circumstances I am experiencing? If I have any: money, time, education, connections, talent, arms and legs, hugs and smiles… can this be utilized for the greatest good possible and to experience my own wellbeing? The truth is: if you aren’t allowing your wellbeing, you will eventually have nothing to give.  When you are resonating with your wellbeing, you have abundant energy, ability, and inspiration to participate in life however you choose.

Assume you can discern the difference between greed or gluttony, and enjoying life in the authentic spirit of raising humanity’s heart resonance and overall positive potential. This means contributing your unique gifts not because you “should”, but because you can.

Science is confirming the power and effects of heart resonance. It is clear that our invisible intentions and emotions profoundly effect other people along with our personal health, not just our words and actions. An action resulting from unconditional Love, charged by joy and awe for Life, is exponentially more powerful than the same action initiated from guilt or sense of duty.

Recognizing this tendency in myself, I am choosing to experience an inspired life because I can, serving both my soul and the good of all.

Be the change that you wish to see in the world” – Mahatma Gandhi

Kriste Brushaber is a holistic movement specialist and life guide, and founder of Homeostasis Movement